3 Words I Repeatedly Said to a Narcissist

A clue something was terribly wrong

What man flies off without their child and doesn’t even notice his son isn’t on the plane?! My ex-husband does. I got a call from one of my boys. He and his father had been flying home together from a business meeting. His dad had gone off to use the phone and told him to meet him at the departure gate.

My son has only flown a few times in his life. He’s not a seasoned traveler. The good news is we owned a beach house. The bad news is we owned a beach house. We never went anywhere but the Jersey Shore when the children were growing up.

My son arrived at the gate to meet his dad, as instructed. He showed up at the gate exactly at the scheduled departure time, and of course, he missed his plane.

Now here’s where the story gets interesting.

My son is twenty-five, old enough to own his actions — and he did. And I agreed with him. It was his responsibility to get to the gate in time to get on the flight. However, he didn’t realize you couldn’t board an airplane that close to departure time.

This brings me to the three words I used about his father; the 3 words that I repeatedly say to a narcissist.

“Who does that??!!”

Who flies off without their son?

And incomprehensibly never notices he’s not on the plane?

My husband’s excuse? They were not seated next to one another. How would he know if his son made the plane or not? To which I say: really?! Even a friend would have realized if his friend didn’t board with him.

My husband used to say I was more fun in the airport than I was at any other point on the entire trip. It’s true. I’m not the best flyer. I always say, “If there’s only one thing in my life I need to have a drink to do, I’m okay with that.”

My son is not the best flyer either.

An adult child or not, wouldn’t you look out for someone who you know isn’t a relaxed traveler? Someone who has barely navigated an airport before? Especially if it’s Sunday and you chose to walk away from him to make a personal call?

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