Honest Dating

I had a conversation with a co-worker today, like I always do, about my love life, something that probably should not be a topic discussed with someone that I have only known for a few months. It started relatively simple, something along the lines of “I need to stop dating boys and start dating men” but probably not as succinct and to the point (because Lord knows I am never succinct when I speak words). I probably told him that I was tired of things not working out, and tired of the immature reaction I get when I tell said boys that it isn’t going to work out. But then my co-worker said something that has stuck with me in the hours since we had the conversation, enough so that I felt the need to blog about it.

Why don’t people take applications to try and find a boyfriend/girlfriend?

I understand the basic concept of dating: more or less, a first date is like a first interview. You find out what a person likes and dislikes, ask them simple but important questions about their past, and then decide whether or not this is someone you want to continue dating. Right? Wrong. I’ve only been dating for what seems like a short amount of time but is around 5 years, and in that time I have never actually had a good first date experience. I feel like someone (my mother) should have told me what it would really be like, but there I was, thinking that people would be honest and open about themselves because that’s all I’ve ever been.

I was so wrong. Thanks Mom.

First dates are probably more like a first interview for that dream job than most people care to admit. You go in, already prepared with exactly what you are going to say, already having practiced that perfect, winning smile. You shake their hand, answer their questions, and you (usually) leave feeling as if it couldn’t have gone any better. Meanwhile, the person on the other end has to make a decision. Take a risk? Or Don’t. So, what am I trying to get at here?

First dates are like first interviews. All lies. No real honesty. Just trying to get the job.

Which isn’t always the worst thing in the world? I have interviewed for several positions in my career and I’m not going to lie to you and say I haven’t embellished a little bit but most of the time I live up to my promises. I am a hard worker, fast learner, and one hell of a sales person. But do I also have flaws that I forgot to leave out when I was telling you all these amazing reasons you should hire me? Hell yes, I did. Because no one…

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